Coffee with Jacqui

Tell us about you, your family and what excites you in life.

Hi, I’m Jacqui from One Messy Mama, based in JHB. Married to Mr. B, with our 5 rambunctious and totally awesome kids aged 7,6,4,2 and 3 months old. I was previously a teacher turned SAHM when we moved to the USA, we have now returned to SA where I have decided to continue being a SAHM. I enjoy writing (obviously :)), meeting and inspiring other moms, and spending downtime with my family.


Jacqui, you have the most beautiful story about becoming a family of 7, please share this with our readers…

My husband and I battled for 6 years to fall pregnant – trying all manner of fertility treatments. Eventually, we were told that we would never fall pregnant unless we were willing to go the IVF route (which was simply well outside of our budget)… this lead to a painful season of coming to terms with the fact that we could not have children. As is often the case with dark times, redemption lay just around the corner. For us that moment came when we met and adopted our oldest 2 sons… 6 weeks later we found out we were pregnant! She was to be our first daughter. So in less than one year, we became the parents of 3 kids. Crazy 🙂 Then we were pleasantly surprised by baby #4. Another little girl who came less than two years after the first. Now, we decided, our family was complete. My husband booked his vasectomy and all plans were set to make sure our stock would remain at 4. Then the vasectomy was postponed by a month because the dr was ill… And in that month we fell pregnant with baby #5 (our youngest AND LAST son) … Shocked and surprised is an understatement! However, we would not change it for the world. We adore having a large family. It is crazy busy, hectic and exhausting (as is all parenting), yet we love every second.


What do you do to stay a) healthy b) active c) practice self love?

a) Favourite Food – Seafood

b) I love running – after my kids

🙂 c) Nothing beats a good book, glass of wine and a hot bath!


What advice do you have for fellow moms/moms-to-be?

My advice for any mom is to do what works for you. Ignore the books and all the advice, pick and choose what you want from it all and let it fit into how you parent. Don’t get stressed out about all the do’s and dont’s. Just parent to the best of your ability and you are sure to be doing a great job!


Are there any quotes you love?

“To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today” — Barbara Johnson


Any final words for our readers?

Never be afraid to be true to the mom you know you are, whatever your day might throw at you… you’ve got this Mama!


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How many kids do you have???



  1. MomOfTwoLittleGirls on September 4, 2017 at 9:31 am

    Love this. So glad you are back in SA, hope to meet you in real life soon and thanks for letting me co-host #globalblogging this week. Loving it!

    • Caitlyn de beer on September 5, 2017 at 4:22 pm


  2. Jessica - A Modern Mom's Life on September 4, 2017 at 2:30 pm

    I love this! Q&A posts are always so fun – and I always learn something! I love the idea of picking and choosing from all the “advice” to make parenting your own. As long you and the family are happy and healthy, you’re doing it right!

    • Caitlyn de beer on September 5, 2017 at 4:21 pm

      It really is so true!! Thanks for your comment Jess x

  3. Tracey on September 4, 2017 at 10:04 pm

    Great interview! Sounds like Jacqui was destined to be a family of 7 🙂 #globalblogging

    • Caitlyn de beer on September 5, 2017 at 4:21 pm

      Absolutely Tracey! xx

  4. Becky (And Then There Were Two) on September 5, 2017 at 3:36 pm

    Wow what an amazing journey to becoming parents! 5 children – you are superwoman! And I love that quote 🙂 very true indeed #globalblogging

    • Caitlyn de beer on September 5, 2017 at 4:21 pm

      She is indeed!! <3

  5. Jeannette Wentzel on September 5, 2017 at 3:48 pm

    So nice to see a bit more of Jacqui on a personal level. I love her blog. #globalblogging

    • Caitlyn de beer on September 5, 2017 at 4:20 pm

      Thanks for reading Jacqui’s interview <3

  6. Rhian Harris on September 6, 2017 at 12:14 pm

    Your story is crazy but it’s lovely! #globalblogging

    • Caitlyn de beer on September 6, 2017 at 12:26 pm


  7. Musings of a tired mummy...zzz... on September 8, 2017 at 10:44 pm

    I agree to pick and choose the relevant advice that suits your family and situation. #globalblogging

  8. Nige on September 10, 2017 at 2:09 pm

    Great interview really interesting love these posts thanks for hosting #globalblogging

  9. Susie/So Happy In Town on September 10, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    Amazing story about Jacqui’s journey to having 5 children. Was obviously all meant to be and what a gorgeous family. #GlobalBlogging

  10. kristin mccarthy on September 10, 2017 at 11:16 pm

    I love your story of becoming a family. We also have a ton in common- I love wine, baths and reading too,.


  11. Charlene | High Heels And Fairy Tales on September 11, 2017 at 10:20 am

    Love this! And I love the quote she chose! #GlobalBlogging

    • Caitlyn de beer on September 11, 2017 at 2:39 pm

      We also love it, thats why we both try and spend as much time as possible with our little ones.

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