Coffee with Kirsten

Kirst, tell us about you, your family and what excites you in life.

I’ve been happily married for 6 years. I have one toddler. Her name is Skyla and she is nearly 3 years old. We moved back from the UK almost 2 years ago.

Im currently a WAHM…I recently started (this past Feb) my own (very) small business, making and selling Busy Bags. I have a Facebook page called ‘Kiddie Concepts – Busy Bags & Teaching Aids’.

I’m also a qualified High School Science and Physical Education teacher. I have over 10 years of teaching experience. I taught in the UK for 6 years. I obviously don’t teach in schools anymore, but do tutor online to U.K. Students.

I’m currently ‘home-schooling’ Skyla…if you can call it that…we follow The Clever Little Owl curriculum but I also find that Skyla is learning a lot through play; and classes (Head Over Heels Gymnastics, Clamber Club Durban North, Toptots & swimming with SwimStars of Durban) and adventures we attend. On the adventure note…we love to go to different adventures through Adventure Clubs. It’s become such an amazing lifestyle for us to have such a variety of different and exciting experiences through Adventure Clubs. I’m also the Durban Team Leader for Adventure Clubs.

I’m a Born Again Christian and my relationship with God is a big part of my life. Apart from my family, my other passions are sport. I’m very sporty, but sadly have found it rather difficult to train like I used to (I completed Ironman SA in 2008 so I used to train loads but alas not to the same extent anymore)…I now have a toddler to keep me active and squeeze in any exercise when I can i(.e. Park runs or a small triathlon or running race every now and again). I’m now also trying to make exercise out of my daily activities e.g. Run up the stairs instead of taking the elevator type exercise. Im planning on hopefully getting back into my sport seriously at some stage soon. I want to train more with Skyla and show to her how important and fun sport can be in your life.

It sounds strange, but I’m also enjoying Instagram (I have only been on IG since last Nov) as I found I have met some inspirational  moms, made new friends, we are loving  the local brand repping, it’s given me the opportunity to get back into my photography (another passion of mine) and I’m finding IG is holding me accountable to try be as creative and intentional with activities that I do with Skyla. My next project is to hopefully start a blog in the next month.

What makes you tick?

I do battle to sit still he he…I really must learn to relax more, but if I’m honest ‘being busy’ makes me tick. I especially love being very active with my toddler during the week. We appear to have a recipe that is working for us i.e. we do as much activity in the morning as we can e.g. a class and/or adventure and/or play date; then Skyla thankfully still naps over lunch…it’s during this time and at night (after everyone is in bed) that I then fit in tutoring, admin, work etc. I’m often asked how I cope doing everything and I must say I think it’s down to being intentional with a specific task in any ‘free’ time I have, using my phone calendar a lot to keep track of activities and view any spare time and to avoid double booking; and having an amazing support network e.g. my hubbie or mom who are always there when I need a babysitter. I do think it helps that I just love being busy.

What advice do you have for new moms or moms in general based on your experience?

Don’t underestimate your child…they understand and can do more than we can imagine and give them credit for eg they’re never too young to start introducing and teaching them things like manners, responsibility (e.g. cleaning up after themselves, caring for a pet) or boundaries (e.g. we don’t touch that as it’s an ornament and it will break…some parents still believe that kids can’t be taught to not touch certain things as the child just won’t understand)

Soak up the ‘everyday’ (sometimes ‘over it’) things because overnight something will change and you won’t be prepared for it eg no longer needing you to get them to sleep, not wanting to hold your hand anymore, the end of you’re breastfeeding journey. They’re only this size and age for such a brief time and before you know it they’re in university. Try not to compare your child. I know it’s hard, but every child develops differently and has their own unique personality and likes/dislikes.

Are there any quotes you love?

‘Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.’ Proverbs 22:6

Where can our readers find you online?

My Facebook page for my busy bags is: https://m.facebook.com/kcbusybags/

My IG account is @doing_life_with_my_tot

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2 Comments

  1. Claire on October 16, 2017 at 11:17 am

    Such a lovely interview, very wise words. Kirsten was my upstairs neighbour and friend in the U.K. We miss seeing Skyla grow up here but I’m so pleased how successfully things are going for mum & daughter in SA. Keep
    Up the good work Kirst! 😘

    • Caitlyn de beer on October 29, 2017 at 5:19 pm

      Oh Amazing Claire! Small world as always x

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