Teri is a local Durbs mum who you may know from her very popular social media feeds, as “Choosearow”.
Teri, tell us about you, your family and what excites you in life.
I have been married to my husband for 7 years. We have one daughter and I am a full time working career woman, a brand manager in a marketing department.
Please tell us about your journey in conceiving Skyla?
I honestly never thought I would become a mother or have that privilege of raising another human being. I did not know that I was a PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) sufferer until we tried to fall pregnant. We planned to start trying for a baby a year after marriage. At no point did we think our journey would take us 6 years to finally fall pregnant and have it be successful. During the years leading up to becoming a mom, we went through many hurdles, we tried clomid, and it did not work for us. In 2014 I was committed to getting fit as the big 30 was looming, and was actively trying to lose weight and live a healthier life. At the same time, I had come to the resolve that we were not going to be parents; I did not want to deal with the emotional turmoil anymore. And true to what everyone says, the moment you are not thinking about it, it happens – I was pregnant. I did not believe it, and it us a long time to accept that this good thing was happening and to celebrate it.
PCOS is not an easy disorder to deal with, you have to do a lot to keep it under control, from living healthy and exercising, since it effects your hormones, there is more than just infertility and irregular menstrual cycles. You fight a harder battle to lose weight, with less motivation to do so. If you are someone that suffers with PCOS, it is nothing to be embarrassed, it took me a long time to accept that this is just part of my life now, and something I have to accept and live with.
What do you do to stay a) healthy b) active c) practice self-love?
For me ‘self love’ is important as without that it’s impossible to prioritize staying healthy or active.
What advice do you have for fellow moms/moms-to-be?
When I found out I was pregnant I knew nothing about babies, or how to look after them or what to expect. I downloaded every pregnancy, parenting app onto my phone and tracked my progress during and post pregnancy. I wanted to be as knowledgeable as possible. I found this extremely empowering as I felt in control of what was happening to my body and my baby. Once Skylar arrived, it took me a few weeks to find my groove as a mom, in the end I did what worked for me and my baby. I took advice with a pinch of salt and in the end went with my own intuition. As a new mom, it can be overwhelming, but do what you think is right. If you are still not sure, reach out to other moms and ask questions. I also found it beneficial to reach out to other communities of first time moms, so I did not feel alone.
Any final words for our readers?
Cherish every moment with your children, and don’t be afraid to be a child yourself. Get on the floor and colour in and play with the dolls. Run and roll in the grass, take advantage of experiencing things through the eyes of a child again. This is a beautiful time in your life and you will be in constant amazement of your child and all these things they learn to do right in front of you. Love and embrace your new mom body and except the things you can’t change and motivate yourself to make a difference to the things you can.
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